If you know what you're looking for, that's great. Maybe that last one-night stand left you feeling empty and unfulfilled, and you're looking for a more consistent hookup.
Maybe you're looking for someone to steadily date on a casual basis, or maybe you're actually looking to meet your next long-term boo. Meeting at a bar or inviting you straight over to his place? Without putting yourself out there too much, it is definitely a good Rorschach test to see where his mind is at. If that's what you're looking for, too, it might be titillating for you.
On the other hand, if he answers with "hiking and hanging out with my dog," then the jury is still out. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is looking for something more ificant -- he might genuinely be a bit reserved or trying to impress you.
He might be looking for a casual partner, but still not be emotionally available. I mean casual questions! Then this might have been one of your first questions -- heck, it might have been your first exchange.
Plus, the benefit of online dating is that you don't have to meet up with someone if Loojing aren't what you're looking for! I've asked this question before, and I've gotten a response back that read something like "casual dating. Or was he open to something evolving into a more ificant relationship, if we met up and clicked?
I had to continue to ask some questions, like this next one It can be tempting to slip into something more snarky if you are out to find your soulmate, and the person you matched with is only into sex. Sex positivity, right?
It might also seem like it's super intimidating to ask someone whether they're looking for something serious before meeting up for a first date. If his response to a relationship is lukewarm, that doesn't necessarily mean the date should be a no-go. As someone who craves companionship, but gets freaked out by the implications of commitment, my response to this question would likely be a bit evasive, too.
Something a little more steady than a hookup, but slightly less serious than a relationship honestly might be the ticket. If you're intrigued by someone -- befode if you suspect it isn't going to last -- I think it's still worth it to meet up with them just once to see what unfolds.
So lighten up, make a joke, and figure out your dinner plans.