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He's so large that sex in my favorite positions is totally out of the question, especially when he starts thrusting hard or goes too deep. Tor you give me some fresh ideas for other sex positions we can try?
A: Thanks for the question! Most men are so size-obsessed that they fail to realize that a large penis can be painful.
Bigger is not always better! Go slow, especially at first.
Your mfn walls can stretch quite a bit, but they need time to relax and adjust. Use lots of lube. This will decrease pain and vaginal tearing. Every body and every combination of bodies!
Reverse Cowgirl How to do it: Have your guy lie flat on his back. Facing his toes, straddle his waist with one of your legs on either side of his body. Use your hand to guide his penis into you. Then bend at the waist hug rest your body weight on your palms. Why it works: The bent over angle creates shallower penetration, and being on top puts you in control of the depth and pace. You can take it nice and slow, and he gets an incredible view! Ways to play: Try going down to your forearms, which Lookibg create a different angle of penetration.
You can also grind your hips in circles instead of moving up and down. Slowly stretch your legs out straight behind you. You also get good clitoral stimulation from rubbing against his shaft or abdomen.
Ways to play: You can try opening or closing your thighs to change the penetration. You can also try staying on your knees and not extending your legs. Or you wrll adjust the top half of your body by fully laying on top of his chest or propping yourself up on your hands. Standing Doggystyle How to do it: Stand up and face the same direction as your man.
Have him penetrate you from behind. You can put your hands up against the wall or a piece of furniture for leverage. This can be a tricky position to start out in, so use lube to get things going.
You can also lift one of your legs for easier access. You can also lift one of your legs for easier access. It feels animalistic and raunchy, without the pain that tends to accompany doggystyle. Ways to play: This is a really hot position to try out in different parts of your home. Try it in the shower! Or in the hallway right hujg you get home!
Have him wrap the crook of his arm under your knee, and hold your leg up and off to the side. He should penetrate you from the front. Like with Standing Doggystyle, you may need to use some lube to get started. Ways to play: Try wrapping your leg around his waist and squeezing him closer.
You approach him on both Looming your knees, and ease him into you. Some of his shaft may even rub against your clitoris, giving you some extra stimulation! Ways to play: You can try closing or widening the angle of your legs. Or you can prop one of your legs up too.
Or you can perch on dor bended knee. Side By Side How to do it: Lie down, facing each other. Wrap your top leg around his waist and have him enter you.
The angle also prevents super deep penetration. You can control how deep he does by squeezing him in closer with your leg. This position is really sweet and intimate, and makes for great lazy Sunday afternoon sex. Ways to play: Try angling your bodies closer or further from each other.
You can also try keeping your leg straight, for a pretty different sensation. The Crab Walk How to do it: Have him sit, with his feet flat on the wel and his hands behind him, supporting his weight. Remember doing the crab walk in Junior High gym class? Get in the same position, but facing him.
Lift your pelvis, and slowly move your body towards his until you can lower down onto his penis. Ways to play: Get down onto your elbows for a new angle. Or tell him to stay still while you grind up against him and touch your clit. Good luck, and have fun! Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage? Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Way, which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on our Soundcloud .